Rhode Island’s Emerging Leaders — Dylan Conley Esq.

GoLocalProv and United Way of Rhode Island

Rhode Island’s Emerging Leaders — Dylan Conley Esq.

Dylan Conley Esq.
Where is Rhode Island going and who is going to take us there? Well, United Way of Rhode Island and GoLocalProv have teamed up in identifying some of the emerging leaders in Rhode Island and asking them questions about leadership and the pathway to a better future in Rhode Island.

Meet Dylan Conley, Esq.

Title/Employer: Lawyer, Law Office of William J. Conley, Jr., and founding board member of Millennial Rhode Island

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Age: 31

1. Who has been your most important mentor and why? (Who or what has had the biggest influence on your professional career?)

My father has been my most important personal and professional mentor. No one has ever challenged me like my father – from Little League to the Supreme Court, he has thrust me into the fray and demanded excellence. There are no excuses, just causes to work harder. But his push has never been blind, its always been purposeful.

My old man is an open ear for questions and debate. He finds teachable moments everywhere. He will help anyone who asks. He helps people without them knowing it. He understands fools, but he does not suffer them. He taught me the life lessons in pick-up basketball; how to set hard off-ball picks and how to pick your team. He’s showed me the value of a good beer by the water and explained that marriage is a cornerstone not a capstone. He taught me that it is not enough to understand that every action has a reaction. He has taught me how everything we do has a large effect over time as the consequences of our first action ripple out into the world.

2. What inspires you in your day-to-day life and in your work?

In the end, I get the most satisfaction whenever I am able to participate in a solution to a community problem. But it’s the drive of the people I work with that inspires me.

I always say, no one hires an attorney because everything is going well. In my law practice, it is my job to solve problems faced by mayors, school committees, unions, housing authorities, zoning and planning boards, and community leaders from across the state.

When I first began my career, the most obvious thing appeared to be the universal and intractable nature of the struggles daunting all of our communities. But as my career progressed, a deeper truth revealed itself. The struggle is real, but it is superficial. The core of our communities is our drive to make our little corner of the world a better place. Our community drive is stronger than any struggle.

I am struck by the earnestness of everyone at public meetings. Despite their disagreements, despite the obstacles they face, everyone seems to have the genuine, innate desire to improve their world. This desire is why, bit by bit, our communities solve their problems instead of succumbing to them.

3. How are you helping to make a positive difference in the lives of others?

My wife and I often talk about ways to make a positive difference in the lives of others, particularly since she became pregnant. We think the most important thing you can do to help others is to start at the foundation. First, you have to make sure you’re taking care of yourself, because if you aren’t personally in a good place then you’ve undercut your ability to help others. Then you must make sure your relationships with your loved ones are strong and healthy. Together, Jenica and I have built ourselves a solid foundation. This has let me spend my free time trying to pitch in wherever I can.

As a founding board member of Millennial RI, I have helped develop a thriving network of millennials exchanging ideas as well as developing their careers and themselves. I am also the Vice President of the Federal Hill House Board of Directors, where I am helping to revamp our organizing documents and develop a renewed vision to enhance our ability to provide the best possible human services to our West End neighbors.

Honestly, I believe my work as a solicitor and Providence Board of Licenses Chairman makes a positive difference, but I understand if some would dispute that because of the nature of local government. From time to time I also try to help my wife and her work with the West Broadway Neighborhood Association in its efforts to revitalize the Cranston Street Armory. I’ve also served on the United Way of Rhode Island Policy Board and worked as a mentor in Central Falls. If I can help, I will. Just ask. 

4. As an Emerging Leader, what have you learned from success and failure?

Success and failure are overrated. The true measure of a person is their effort. Success and failure depend on many variables beyond our control, so measuring people based on their success or failure is unfair. Our effort is the only thing we really control, so effort is a better predictor of future success than past success. Success is doubly overrated, because the old adage is true, you learn a lot more from failure than success.

Understanding that success and failure is a bad proxy to measure our worth is fundamental to humility. What I have learned from success and failure is that both are fleeting and both can hinge on fate. All we can really do is work hard and be mindful that luck is just as responsible for our successes as it has been for other people’s failures.

5. What is one thing you feel everyone can do to move our state forward and strengthen it for the future?

We need an attitude change. Our state motto is Hope. Roger Williams founded Rhode Island because he recognized self-evident truth and inalienable rights 140 years before the Declaration of Independence. The American founding fathers followed in Roger Williams’ footsteps. America followed in Rhode Island’s footsteps. Rhode Island’s story of origin – our own – is the creation of the American conscience a century-and-a-half before the birth of our nation. We were bold. The Boston Tea Party was an adorable theatrical copycat paying homage to our trailblazing burning of the Gaspee. Our radical dissent knew no bounds. Tiny little Rhode Island declared its independence from Great Britain months before the rest of the colonies. Rhode Island was the vanguard of the American soul.

Where is that radical dissent today? Why are our ideas old and our ambitions meek? I don’t understand. Every day, at work and in the community, I see an earnest desire from our community leaders and officials to make our home a better place. But every time someone steps forward with a bold new idea, we shoot it down. Why has a fear of failure replaced our history of unmatched bravado?

We need an attitude change. We need to lose our fear of failure and return to our historic post at the vanguard of the American soul.

 

Favorite place in Rhode Island: The red plastic Adirondack chairs at Blount’s in Warren

Most influential book read: Plato’s Republic

Something about you that people may be surprised to learn: My wedding ring is a tattoo

Favorite hobby or pastime: Trying out new Providence restaurants with my wife, Jenica


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