Carol Anne Costa: Off You Go - You Are Not Alone

Carol Anne Costa, GoLocalProv MINDSETTER™

Carol Anne Costa: Off You Go - You Are Not Alone

Well this week provided a plethora of topics to set my sights on; Donald Sterling’s reprehensible and racist remarks and subsequent lifetime ban from the NBA, the RI House Judiciary voted to abolish the master lever, the canonization of 2 Popes and a botched execution in Oklahoma. So to weigh in briefly on these happenings: Donald Sterling is an ignorant jerk, Doc Rivers is a class act, and NBA Commissioner, Adam Silver did the right thing. Thank heaven the House Judiciary voted to abolish the master lever and will send it to the house floor, will it survive floor and will Senate have the fortitude to make new election law? We shall see. The canonization ceremony and Mass from the Vatican was packed and beautiful but, Popes JPII and John XXIII still have detractors. Last time I looked, we as a nation still abhor cruel and unusual punishment and the Constitution remains clear on that point. Are you listening Governor Fallin? As important and moving these events are, it is the new college sexual assault initiative pushed by the White House that I find most timely, important, personal and compelling.

The Migration to College is Underway

As we speak, so many families, parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles and loved ones are dealing with angst, as the kids they love are getting ready to leave the nest on the way to the next step on their education journey. Like any voyage the path has twists turns and speed bumps, and sadly dark stretches of road. As grown ups we are keenly aware of the dangers that can face young students in the college setting and Golocal’s Kate Nagle addressed the ambiguous choices for assault victims on campuses in a recent story . Rape and sexual assault are crimes, and experts in law enforcement are doubling down by repeatedly denouncing the temptation for colleges and universities to employ “dual justice systems” for enforcement of criminal acts like sexual assault. I weighed in on the bursting numbers of sexual assaults at colleges earlier this year. The Obama administration’s White House Council on Women and Girls and the Office of the Vice President released a report detailing the staggering figures of sexual assaults particularly on college campuses. The report and the path forward are something I have kept my finger on, as my niece makes her way this fall. Believe me this is a very scary issue and is personal to so many people.

It seems like only yesterday when I was watching a group of kindergarten girls grow and thrive in the halls, playgrounds and classrooms of Saint Mary Academy Bay View. What they are today is part of the the Class of 2014; eager, full of promise, vim & vigor, confidence, smarts, skills and oh yes a good bit of swagger. To them, I am just a doting old Auntie always ready to listen, cheer and occasionally scold, but to me they are the world, the future and in a word, precious, as is every young man and young woman heading off to college. It is incumbent upon us to protect them to the degree that we can, as they make their way to change the world. So given the new waves of students who soon will be flocking to school what tools do we give them to be safe and protected amidst the confusion and danger that apparently exist within the halls of academia?

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The White House has a Plan

The fact sheet developed to combat the epidemic of sexual assault in college should make everyone shiver, as the opening paragraph reads, “ One in five women is sexually assaulted while in college. Most often, it happens her freshman or sophomore year. In the great majority of cases, it’s by someone she knows – and also most often, she does not report what happened. And though fewer, men, too, are victimized.”

The newest initiative of the Obama Administration called notalone.gov When the Obama administration released the portal it was with this mission: “Perhaps most important, we need to keep saying to anyone out there who has ever been assaulted: you are not alone. We have your back. I’ve got your back.” President Barack Obama, January 22, 2014. With that, the White House a has created a website that is a resource for schools, parents and students. The comprehensive material that is a mere click away spans empirical data, Title IX guidelines, law enforcement tips, 3 hot lines including live chat capability, policy guidelines, prevention resources and so much more.

Arming our Children

As startling as the data and first hand accounts are surrounding this issue how do we more effectively arm our children to combat this plague? We all must listen up, educate ourselves and spread the word. The battle will be waged with education,support and tools delivered way before they get to college, and yes it takes a village. By strengthening enforcement efforts and greater cooperation between varying constituencies, schools and agencies the conversation and action plan can begin. Communication is extremely valuable in this plan, as open and free dialogue with victims, survivors, parents, schools law enforcement and the general public can only give all of us more tools and the confidence to act.

I urge everyone to speak frankly with your kids, visit notalone.gov together and give them the ammunition they may need to get through the challenges which may lurk ahead. These numbers don’t lie. As the doting Aunt, I know my niece, her friends and their families are expecting an onslaught of information from me in the months to come, so be prepared for my invasion of your in boxes. All I want for them is a safe, fun and rich college experience and this Auntie will not send them forward unaware, uneducated or unarmed.

Carol Costa is a public relations and community outreach specialist; she has experience in both the public and private sectors. She is the Chairwoman of the Scituate Democratic Town Committee and has extensive community affairs and public relations experience. She previously served in the Rhode Island Judiciary for nearly 17 years. Carol also enjoyed a successful development stint at the Diocese of Providence as Associate Director for Catholic Education and is currently a public housing manager. Her work has been published in several local outlets including GoLocal, Valley Breeze, The Rhode Island Catholic, and Currents Magazine.


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