Guest MINDSETTER™ Tom Kenney: All Lives Matter

Guest MINDSETTER™ Tom Kenney

Guest MINDSETTER™ Tom Kenney: All Lives Matter

I don't presume to speak for police officers or anyone else, but...

I feel the need to throw my opinion into the fray regarding the national discussion around the “black lives matter” and “blue lives matter” and “all lives matter” camps.

Obviously, #3 can’t be true if either of the first 2 are not. Every side has to come to that realization before we can move ahead and make any progress.

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Racial equality and racial opportunity for all races have never been better in this country. This is true. We have an African American president and many African American and Latino elected officials all around this country. There may be more work to be done in this area but no doors are shut due to race today.

Racial tensions, however, seem to be getting worse by the day, particularly between African American young males and police officers. I believe there are a number of extenuating factors that play into that dynamic in addition to the racial angle. We all need to recognize that the issue is more complex than simple black and white or we will further divide this country and cost many more lives in the process.

Major Factors

The first, and biggest, factor is socio-economic. Poor young men commit more violent crimes than anyone else. They also carry firearms at a much higher rate. Remember that many of the shootings people protest happen to individuals who the police either know, or suspect, are armed. There is a much higher percentage of men of color (be it black, brown or yellow) living in poverty in this country than their white counterparts. The police know this and understandably approach a traffic stop with this in mind. They also approach a vehicle with young white men more cautiously than a vehicle with a middle-aged man or woman for much the same reason.

Fear is a very large factor in these confrontations – a man of color’s fear of being abused by the police and the officer’s fear of the situation turning violent.

Size, sex, age, general appearance (dress, tattoos, etc.) and yes, race, are all factors in a police officer’s frame of mind when he encounters the public. Any of these on their own are unlikely to affect an officer’s trepidation to any measurable degree, but a large young male(s) dressed in dark, raggedy clothes of a different race than the officer will certainly put him/her on edge to begin the encounter. If this person begins resisting instructions or becomes confrontational, things can escalate very quickly. The police officer feels fear just like the individual being confronted. Fear tends to feed emotions and alpha male responses which lead to violent confrontations by both sides.

I realize that it is easy for me, as a white male, and for police officers to suggest that the onus is on the male of color who is stopped by law enforcement to not allow his emotions or actions toward the officer become confrontational. I don’t have the same institutional fear of the police that a black man has. This is the key, however. Complete compliance. I’ve had “that talk” with both my sons when they first began to drive, with refresher courses given periodically, because I know that they will get pulled over more than I and that all young men want to act tough – please, not to the police. Comply with his demands and if you believe you’ve been disrespected or mistreated report that officer to his department. You may not believe it but if an officer gets consistent complaints there will be consequences for him.

Another major factor for this disconnect is the reporting of the media. In this 24-hour news cycle we’re in the major motivations of the media is to beat the other networks to the story and to sensationalize it to the point that viewers stay with the coverage as long as possible. Truth and accuracy take a back seat to ratings and scoops. This means leading the discussions before all the facts are in. There are often demonstrations, and sometimes violent confrontations, over an incident before we even know whether or not it was a justified shooting. We need to be patient and let the process play out before we point fingers. This goes for both sides.

Finally, we have to acknowledge the responsibility of our political leaders in the mess we find ourselves in today in this country. We are no longer political opponents, we are now enemies. If these elected officials can’t work together how can they expect the rest of us to respect each others’ views? It seems that there is a greater divide between all American people than at any other time in our modern history. We all need to learn to respect other views and find some common ground where we can agree and move forward instead of concentrating on the extreme views on the other side and refuse to budge.


Male African American Leaders in RI - 2015

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