Fit for Life: "Why Does This Always Happen to Me"

Fit for Life: "Why Does This Always Happen to Me"

If you say things like “I can’t catch a break,” or “Things never work out for me,” or “I should be doing…” or “That person is lucky…..” or “I wish / I’m hoping,” or “Why does this always happen to me,” life will suck for you because you are allowing yourself to approach life from a victim’s stance as opposed to owning and creating your own life and living it on your terms.

 

Life is good.

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I was at a conference in Orlando this week having dinner with approximately 50 Fit Body Boot Camp owners and after a few pleasantries with my buddy Tom, he looked up across the table and said (almost at the same time as me) “hey man, life is good.”

 

I agreed and went on to say, “look around, brother, look at all these great people we have in our network.”

 

Then I told him about the other networks I’m involved with and we started discussing the qualities of life and the people we surround ourselves with, and how being in the proximity of good people drastically improves your quality of life.

 

Then we went into other instances that make life good.

 

We have businesses with potential, we have good people, and we have good health.

Then I started thinking that you really need to have all three of these to be able to say life is good.

 

Let me explain why, and explain that acquiring all three is actually hard work, and it takes effort to have a good life. Nobody is entitled, and things won’t happen to you, HOWEVER, they will happen because of you.

 

In order to surround myself with like-minded people, I need to travel all over the country. I have a handful of people locally that I call my friends, and I have a gym full of awesome people that are my members, however, that’s not what recharges my batteries or fills my cup 3-5 times a year.

 

I surround myself, and recharge with these people so I can improve my leadership, and come back and pour into my team and members. Being around this network gives me energy and life, so I can come back and live out my purpose and legacy which is to change the lives of others for the better, fill their cups, and charge their batteries.

 

This takes a lot of time, money and energy, and if I want to consider life to be “good” I need to be in the presence of others with the same mindset and intention. Proximity is power!!

 

Remember, your network is your net “worth.”

 

Think about it.

 

If you hang with miserable people that complain about what’s wrong with the world, you become miserable.

If you hang with people that villainize people with money or that are doing well for themselves, it is highly unlikely that you will grow financially.

 

If you party every night with the same group of people, it’s unlikely you are a productive person and probably won’t advance too far on the ladder of life. Yes there are exceptions to the rule, but statistically, you will become a product of your environment.

 

Another component that makes life good is your health and fitness.

 

Like I said earlier, having a good life isn’t easy and takes a lot of hard work, but it is possible for us all if we are willing to invest ourselves and our energy to acquire it.

 

Yes I’ve heard people tell me “I’m fat and happy, so leave me alone,” but is life really good for these people?

I say no, because it’s inevitable that they will face a health crisis sometime in the future, and when you are sick, you can’t be happy.

 

Another guy once said to me “I have a lot of money, so I don’t need to be fit.” Really?

Can money make you live longer, improve your vitality, boost your self-esteem, and improve your quality of life? 

 

Yes, money is a vehicle to freedom, can free up your time, allow you to purchase quality things, and negate the stresses that money brings, but when you are standing in front of the mirror naked, does money improve your self image, and make the actual quality of your life / existence better? I think not.

 

This is where the third topic we discussed comes in.

 

Having a business or livelihood with great potential is necessary to be able to say life is good. Money isn’t a substitute for good health, or having a good network of people, however, it is essential to earn a good living in order to have a good life.

 

Poor people rarely say life is good, because every day is a struggle.

 

I am not rich by any means, nor am I where I need to be at this point in my life, however, I have the resources to travel and reinvest in my business. I wouldn’t be saying life is good if I didn’t have a roof over my head, food in the fridge and the ability to do the things I want in life, so I get up and hustle every day so I can create the lifestyle I choose.

 

Even with hard work and the discipline to attempt to move the money needle forward every day, nothing is guaranteed.

 

I am also not looking down on poor people or folks with legitimate disadvantages, because life can attack people on different levels, and some don’t have the capacity to overcome certain circumstances, I am talking about the people that waste their potential and put themselves in the victim's seat.

 

Most of us have the ability and capacity to live a good life, yet some are content with the “life sucks” approach.

 

I am reading an amazing book called “Straight Line Leadership”,  by Dusan Djukich, and I love this book because it portrays the harsh realities in life. Whatever excuses I had, it has called me out on my own bullshit, and even though it stings, it’s exactly what I need to change my line of focus.

 

Chapter 24 is titled “Owner vs. Victim. Here are a couple of lines from the chapter:

 

Ownership is a created state of mind. It’s a distinct place to come from. Once I’m there, I’m the owner of my life. I’ve taken over. I’m no longer a mere victim of circumstances. I will now create the circumstances in my life.

 

Victims are fixated on solving the past. They nurture past hurts and memories.

Owners focus on creating the future. It’s a place to live from. Owner? Or victim?

 

The place you operate from has you be who you are - an owner or victim.

You are who you are because you say so and for no other reason.

 

You get to own and invent the world you live in.

You decide what will be made real.

You decide how you will create yourself and how you will respond to whatever circumstances arise.

 

Will you speak and operate from owner or victim?

 

You don’t get to have a powerful life for free.

You have to create it.

 

Committed to your success,

Coach Matt